Working Moms: The Glory and the Struggle

Being a busy working mom is not for the faint of heart. Daily I am faced with guilt—both self-imposed and slung from society—about my choice to pursue a career. I am not around for every class party, I do not stay up late making handmade Valentines, and every lunch my children eat is not packed with my own two hands. It’s a difficult thing to realize that I simply can’t be in two places at once, and therefore, I truly can’t do it all. There are times when I am forced to put my work before playing My Little Pony with Ruby or chauffeuring Matix to basketball practice, and truth be told, it hurts! But the reality is, I love what I do. I love to work. I love that I crawl into bed every night exhausted from pouring my heart into every single thing I do. Is it completely ideal? Maybe not for some. But for me, being a working mom really is the only option, and I wouldn’t have it any other way. 

I am an extreme extrovert and LOVE being with people, so working has always been so natural to me. With the demands of Chris and my schedule, we could be paralyzed with guilt at the amount of time we are away from home and drop everything. But that’s not an option, so we have decided on a few things that help us balance our home life and work life to keep our guilt at bay. First, it’s very important to us that the kids have every opportunity for consistency and success in their own lives. Just because we may be traveling a lot doesn’t mean the kids should drop everything and go all of the time too. They each have their own activities they are committed to, and we want them to have the best opportunities to succeed. So when we travel, they stay home and are in the BEST care of hand-selected family and friends we trust! And when AT ALL possible, we bring the kids with us!

We also understand that the life we lead can be a bit crazy, but it’s also filled with SO many incredible opportunities for the kids to learn as they travel! Our kids have been amazing and have adapted very well to the “flow” of the Powell Pack.

So, to all you moms out there, I want you to BELIEVE that YOU CAN make a difference in this world OUTSIDE of your home at the same time you are making a difference INSIDE of your home. You CAN be the example for your kids of how to treat others, how to love unconditionally, how to give selflessly, and how to live a healthy lifestyle.

I feel like too many moms these days live with “mommy guilt” and are too scared to accomplish their own dreams outside of the home out of fear of neglecting their in-home responsibilities. I want all moms to know that not only is there a way to accomplish both (fulfillment in the home and for YOU personally), but it’s necessary. Because hey…if mama ain’t happy, NOBODY is happy. There is nothing wonderful about a home lead by an unfulfilled, sad, and depressed mama. Moms MUST take care of themselves and their needs FIRST, and then they are better able to take care of others.

One of the best decisions I have made recently is to TALK to my kids about it. I ask them questions like, “How do you feel when mom is gone?” Or “Do you feel like I miss a lot of your school activities?” Or “What could I do more of that would make you happier?” Obviously our children LOVE to have us around 24/7, and their emotions can’t dictate our every move, BUT if they know they are HEARD—and that we truly listen—we can avoid bigger issues later! I think the guilt of being a working mom paralyzes some moms into not even bringing it up with the kids at all!

So, GO! Decide today to accomplish something new. It doesn’t have to be groundbreaking, just something simple that you are proud of. And one more note of advice if you don’t mind me saying…

Don’t compare yourself to anyone other than yourself! It’s way too easy to see other moms on Instagram seemingly doing it all better than you think you are doing yourself. You’ve got to remember that comparing yourself as a mom or a person to someone on Instagram is like comparing your reality to someone’s highlight reel—it’s like comparing apples and oranges. We are all human, and we all have struggles…some are just better at hiding them than others. Cut yourself some slack and know that you are doing everything as well as you can! You are perfectly imperfect…and good enough JUST AS YOU ARE!!!

The Powell Pack

Xoxo,

Heidi

Related reading:

You can do anything but not everything.
Love Who You Are
A Perfectly Imperfect Working Mom: Janey Kaspari
How I Manage My (Im)Perfectly Balanced Life
I am (NOT) a Pinterest Mom


1 Comment

  1. monica - October 19, 2017

    I’m a sahm and I feel terrible guilt!! Honestly I wish I was less cranky and more patient, I think working moms are AWESOME!! And if their work is making them generally happy, then chances are their kids are inspired by them, showing them to go for their dreams. Thank you working moms! Youre doing the best you can and most of us probably feel like terrible mothers no matter what we do!!

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