“Someone once told me the definition of hell: The last day you have on earth, the person you became will meet the person you could have become.”

I posted that quote on Instagram recently, and it’s been really taking up space in my brain, enough so that I want to talk about it even more because I think the message is that powerful.

Think about it. Imagine yourself lying on your death bed (I know, it’s a morbid, uncomfortable, scary thought, but stick with me here). What would your current (or this future version) self think about your life? About the dreams, you chased after or the path you chose? Would you be happy with the decisions you made and how you chose to live your life most days?

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Yellow Sweater (similar here), Ring Set, Vans Hi-Top Sneakers, The Foxy Kind Jeans 

3 Tips for Becoming the Person You Want to Be

If you’re like me and probably a million others, you’re going to have some hold ups. Some regrets, if you will. Because so many of us are hiding behind things we haven’t tapped into yet. Things that we’re keeping inside and not letting out, not developing or pursuing. The truth of it is, guys, when this happens, we are not serving ourselves or the world at the capacity that we could.

Watch the video below for my top tips or keep reading!

Stop Caring What Others Think

In order to be the person you are meant to be in this world, you have to never, ever, EVER allow the opinions, or judgments, or whispers of other peoples’ voices to get to you. And guys, this is hard. I struggle with it too. But, all too often, it’s something we allow to hold us back. It’s like we develop a form of imposter syndrome. We worry about what others will think if we make a post on social media. We worry that they will look at us and misinterpret our message or question our qualifications to be giving advice while we are still learning ourselves. But, I’m going to tell you this super important piece of advice, so listen up: You can either live your life caring about what other people might think while never fully developing your gifts and talents, all in the name of pleasing other people while simultaneously making yourself miserable, OR you can choose to forget about all the “what ifs” and what people might think or say and, instead, truly live your life for YOU. When you can do this, you will be far more able to serve the world, touch the lives of those who need it, and fulfill your mission here on this earth.

Set Boundaries

You can never become who you are meant to be if you do not know how to set healthy boundaries. The only people who get upset when you set boundaries are the people who benefited from you having none. Yep. Read it again, and then a third time for good measure. I am guilty of being this person. I give and I give and I give until I have nothing left, and then I struggle with wondering why, at the end of the day, I’ve put myself last yet again. But guys, this is an urge worth fighting. When we continue to make other people happy at the expensive of our own happiness, when we are unwilling to set boundaries that demand our value be acknowledged, then we are teaching others how to treat us. We are showing them it is okay to walk all over us. Our ability (or lack thereof) to set healthy boundaries will be the thing that builds us up or crumbles us down.

Take Immediate Action

When you know you’re meant to be someone or to do something, when you have a plan or a goal, none of it will mean a dang thing if you’re not actively ready and willing to move toward that goal each and every single day. You have to be willing to get uncomfortable, and you have to be ready to work.

So, I want you to do three things for me this week:

  1. Think of one area of your life…whether it’s a situation or an interaction with someone you’re allowing in your space. Think of how you’re allowing that person or that situation and the potential for judgement to infiltrate your thoughts and hold you back from following your dreams.
  2. Think of one boundary you can set for yourself this week: One person you can say no to or one boundary that is taking you away from time spent doing something meaningful in your life.
  3. Think about the person you are wanting to become. Visualize him or her, and then take one giant leap toward becoming that person this week.

And here’s a fourth for extra credit. 😉 Comment one of your answers below. Let me meet the person you know you’re meant to be!

xo,

Related reading:

Healthy Habits: Setting Emotional Boundaries
Life Lessons Learned | Developing Integrity, Learning to Love Yourself, and Setting Boundaries
Healthy Habits: Control + Emotional Wellness
Less Is More: Accomplish Your Goals by Saying NO!
How to Find Strength in Our Struggles
12 Lessons Failure Taught Me