I am (still) Perfect…

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In speaking to a group of new friends, I had the opportunity to share my thoughts on “perfection”. It made me think of this post, one of the earliest posts I ever wrote for my blog, that really hit home with so many people when I shared it. Enjoy!

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Thank goodness for makeup artists!

I am Perfect.

Perfectly imperfect, that is.

I use the word ?perfect ? a lot, and often times had people remind me that nothing is perfect. I totally disagree. I believe that everyone and every thing is perfect and beautiful in its imperfect state of being. Think about that for one second ? imagine that just maybe your imperfections actually make you perfect. Don?t you just love the freedom that thought gives you? Well, time to realize the reality of the thought and let go of our self-judgments and negative self-talk. It?s time to embrace our imperfections.

Now I?m not saying to throw caution to the wind and go indulge in a gallon of super chunky triple chocolate fudgy goo. I?m saying that it?s okay to mess up, and it?s okay to have faults. For those of you that don?t, I?m sorry. These faults, trials, imperfections and stumbles are our some of our greatest blessings ? they?re our ?springboards? to becoming the strongest person we can possibly be!

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Hair piece! A necessary evil for me!

So why do we so often find ourselves “masking up” for the day before we go out in public? Why do we all feel the need to pretend to be something we are not? Why are we so scared of who we really are? Every time we put on that mask we feel beautiful and invincible. We put on a show of perfection for our friends, family, co-workers, and acquaintances?everyone. We?re not true to them, but most importantly we are not true to ourselves. We are a fraud.

Ever feel that way? I sure have, and I still find myself there at times. I have to remind myself of a lesson I learned from my late father: true beauty comes from being honest and authentic.

You?re scared. I hear you. It?s not easy to peek out from behind that mask and share our difficulties and challenges with the world. But trust me, it?s worth it! The freedom that comes with being vulnerable, open, and real is unlike anything else. It?s the most liberating thing I?ve ever experienced, and without a doubt it has become one of the most powerful tools in my arsenal.

?Heidi, this is easy for you to say. You don?t have imperfections like I do.? FALSE! The camera is deceiving and shallow.

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My perfectly imperfect feet – bunions and all!

Behold, a Top 10 list of only some of my many imperfections:

  1. I have bunions.
  2. My nostrils flare to the size of a nickel when I laugh (those of you who know me know EXACTLY what I?m talking about!)
  3. My hair might be beautiful?but only because I clip in extensions (and that?s not the only enhanced part of me).
  4. I am a control freak (I?m working on it ? so darn hard though, and not sure I?m making much improvement).
  5. I have food issues too.
  6. One of my eyes is lazy when I smile and I am SO self-conscious about it.
  7. Chris is my soul mate and best friend, and so often we post pictures of us when things are fun and rosy, but we, like every other couple, have challenges and differences that we?re always working on.
  8. I am tempted 99.9% of the time to cheat during my workouts.
  9. No matter how hard I work on my abs, I will always have a belly button that could be mistaken for a nose.
  10. I don?t wake up looking camera-ready. ?Thank goodness for hair and makeup artists!
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Waking Up Au Natural!

So many more, but there?s not enough room in this blog.

So, how do you find this place of peace with yourself as you are?

Rule 62 ? DON?T TAKE YOURSELF SO DAMN SERIOUSLY (thanks again, Dad).

Don?t be scared or embarrassed. You?re in a safe place and it?s time for a heart to heart conversation with the most important person in your life – YOU! Dig deep and allow yourself to see those imperfections. Try seeing the beauty in your flaws (yes, that bump on your nose makes you YOU!). Realize the lessons and strength that your imperfections have given you. And most importantly, don?t worry about what other people think. One of my favorite sayings is, ?Those who mind don?t matter and those who matter don?t mind.?

Now go be your perfectly imperfect self ?:-).

183 Responses

  1. I love this! I have this blog post saved and read it often. I am such a perfectionist, control freak and so hard on myself. If I know I can’t do something and succeed 100%, I often give up or don’t try. But I have to remind myself that it’s not 100% success that matters, it’s the 100% effort that matters. Thank you for being real!

  2. I had some breast work done and I used the Dr Max Powers Scar Serum on one breast and the scar treatment they gave me at the doctor’s office on the other breast. The Dr Max Powers Scar Serum worked so much better I wish i would have used it on both sides now!!! I didn’t use it on both sides because I didn’t know what the reaction would be on an semi open wound ( stiches). I am using it now however and it is working…but its taking much longer to fade the scar.

  3. Saw this post and couldn’t help but think of this quote. πŸ™‚ love you Heidi and all that you do!
    ?It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; . . . who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly.??Theodore Roosevelt

  4. How do I stop using food to soothe myself when I’m stressed out and depressed? I obsess over it. Please help:(

    1. Hi Danelle: The key is to find other ways to soothe yourself. Take up a new hobby, go for a walk, read a bit of a book, anything that will help. And the key is to figure out what exactly is causing your stress and depression, and then you can get some ideas on how to hopefully make the situations/causes better. I hope that helps – we wish you the best! πŸ™‚

  5. This may be long, so bear with me. And I’m not sure who will actually be reading this, but I hope that somehow this message gets relayed back to Heidi in some way. Twitter has been a great way to interact with Heidi, but you can only say so much. And Facebook is too public of a forum for me to be that vulnerable.

    Your blog posts are great. I love hearing about the show and trying out new foods. But it’s posts like this that hit home for me. Obviously this is an older post, so I probably seem like some sort of stalker. But I came across something mentioning being perfectly imperfect, and I went searching for more.

    I have strived for perfection my entire life. And I have failed miserably. But you have told me that we never fail. We may fall, but we pick ourselves up and learn from that fall and begin again. Those words your wrote to me have greatly impacted my outlook on life.

    This may be way too much information, but I feel as though this is a part of my process in my journey. In order to move on with my body transformation, I need to confront the mental and spiritual aspects. And I don’t have anyone I can talk to about this stuff. (Which why I’m writing on a blog to someone who I know I’ll never meet and who may never read this is beyond me at this point, but I’m kind of at a loss. I reached out to Rachel Paul on Instagram because I related to her story the most, but don’t want to continue to pursue that because 1. awkward and 2. I don’t want to be a burden). I so desperately strive to be perfect. The perfect student. The perfect child. The perfect athlete. But over the years, I’ve come to realize that I have only been hurting myself by doing so. I just received my masters. Employers are not going to be looking at how many A’s I received. But I busted my ass off, and in turn ignored my body and my health. I wanted to be the perfect child. But instead I became the problem child. I know now that this has to do with trauma that took place that I did not deal with or talk about, which negatively impacted my body and my health. I grew up playing soccer and softball, but was cut before making the varsity teams. That killed me, and again had a negative impact on my body and health.

    You posted 10 imperfections. I could probably post 100. But I wanted to post 10 as well. 10 that I don’t normally share. 10 that I don’t want to confront. But 10 that, I’m hoping by confessing, will help me feel less alone. I mean, hopefully someone will read this…

    1. I have major issues with food. It started at a very young age, and has only gotten worse. It’s not just skipping meals. There have been plenty of binges. And then there were times where I would binge and purge. And then there were times where I would work out for 4 hours a day. I would like to say that I’m in recovery. But I’m not. I don’t have a handle on this yet.

    2. I have scars from cutting. The ones on my arms have been covered by tattoos. But the ones on my left thigh are a constant reminder of how much pain I was in awhile back.

    3. I broke my purity pledge. Well really it was broken long before I made it when I was very young. But then I made a pledge. After I was taken advantage of again, that kind of went out the door.

    4. Food dictates my life. I’m overweight. But not obese. I would never make it onto EWL. (And I know about the carb cycling) πŸ™‚

    5. I feel like I need to wear makeup to feel pretty.

    6. I feel that because I’m overweight I’m ugly, and therefore do not deserve the love of a man. Or anyone for that matter.

    7. I’m the black sheep of the family. And it’s not just me who thinks that. My parent’s friends have actually called me that to my face.

    8. My nostrils flair, too. It’s embarrassing.

    9. I shave my arms because in 8th grade I was pinned down by two boys in an empty classroom and they wrote “wolf” on my forehead with a sharpie marker because I had dark, thick arm hair.

    10. My anxiety is so bad that sometimes I can’t leave my house.

    I know you aren’t taking clients. And I know that you guys wish that you could help everyone. I don’t live in Arizona. I’m not asking you for anything. I’m fully aware that not only are you guys busy helping people transform their lives on the show, but you also have a family that is way more important than any of this. I’m just one person. But you reached me. You have encouraged me. I can’t tell you what I would give to just sit down with you for an hour and have coffee with you and just talk. You actually care about people. And our interaction has only been through twitter, but I felt like you actually cared about me.

    I had a dream I got to work for the #PowellPack. It was pretty awesome. You guys make me want to be better. You make me want to give back and help others. And hopefully I can do that.

    Thank you, Heidi.

    1. Hi Ashley: Thank you so much for your very heartfelt and raw comment. I’m so sorry for all you’ve had to go through…and you are not alone! We hear from people on a regular basis who are also suffering through their own list of 10+ things, and who are also trying so hard to navigate life in spite of those things on their list. I really like what you said at the end of your comment, and Heidi would tell you that this is a huge key to helping you deal with your list: “You make me want to give back and help others. And hopefully I can do that.” This is something Heidi teaches her kids every day – she asks them what they’ve done that day to fill someone else’s bucket. I know I’m not Heidi, but I know she would tell you that you are perfectly imperfect, and that those things you’re dealing with give you the compassion to help others who are struggling with similar things. And she would also tell you that it is a definite sign of strength to reach out to others for help, so please don’t be afraid to do that when necessary. You are amazing! πŸ™‚

    2. Either I’m stupid and can’t find the reply button to your comment, or there is no way to do so. In any case…

      Thank you. I don’t know who replied to my comment from last night, but I appreciate it more than you know. While it was nice to get those things off of my chest, it sucks not knowing who actually read it. It’s so easy to be completely honest with a stranger. But it is also hard knowing that, really, I’m still alone holding on to all of it. There’s something comforting about the fact that you, whoever you are, is a state over from me. You don’t know me. You can’t confront me on my struggles and hold me accountable. There is this wall between us. And it’s comfortable. But I don’t want to be comfortable anymore. I want accountability. I want someone to confront me. And I’ve long given up on the idea of meeting Heidi or having her as a mentor or trainer. It will never happen. But I don’t have anyone to talk to. I reached out on here because I can’t talk to anyone I know. This is safe to me. Which seems pathetic. You wrote to reach out if necessary. But I would totally feel like a burden if I continued to write about my problems and ask for help on here. Really I’m a nobody. Certain people know certain things about me. But no one, aside from you and anyone who read that (very lengthy) comment of mine, know all of those things about me. So whoever you are….you know more about me than my best friend. I’m trying to be okay with being perfectly imperfect. I really am. But that means I need to take away the facade and live authentically. And that scares me.

      If I had someone to talk to, I would bother them with this and not you. I’m sorry to take up your time. All of this was really just to say thank you for what you wrote and for noticing me.

  6. It’s so refreshing to hear such a beautiful “perfect” in society woman has insecurities. I guess no matter how fat/thin, ugly/gorgeous…every woman has some insecurities about something. It’s taken me a very long time to understand that and I still honestly struggle with that.
    By the way…I think you look even more “perfect” WITHOUT the makeup!

  7. I really loved reading this…..I have, for my whole life been “imperfect”. I have a congenital back condition have had a life of pain, and started my journey with back surgeries at the age of 19. I am now 41 and have had 9 major back surgeries, with unfortunate results. Chronic pain is a part of my daily life and always will be. I know if I were to let myself have a really bad day, or give in to my urges to just give up, my life would probably end….Every day is a battle, every day is a trial. I agree that we are perfectly imperfect, and I know that we all have our trials…..my back problems and my weight are two things that have held me back from truly living for the last 10 years. I can’t find a trainer that will work with me….no one dares. I can’t go to physical therapy due to the cost. My surgeries have taken enough from my family that spending hundreds of dollars a month to try physical therapy isn’t really an option. I haven’t seen you and Chris work with anyone with a chronic pain condition…..is that where the line can’t be crossed? I guess as time goes on, and I miss more and more of my family’s activities I feel more and more helpless. I love the message that everyone is perfectly imperfect…I would just like to be able to embrace my imperfection instead of being held back because of them. I am not looking for sympathy, I am looking for encouragement. I guess what I would love to hear is that there is something I can do to improve my quality of life and improve my ability to rejoin my family in an active life. This might have been the wrong outlet for this and I honestly didn’t mean to turn this into a poor me…..I love your message, and I thank you for your time. Thank you!!!

    1. Hi Cindy: Thank you so much for your post. You have definitely been through a lot – I can’t imagine how frustrating this all must be for you! You mentioned your weight in your post. While it is best, with your health issues, to work with your healthcare provider on any exercise program since they know your exact issues and can work with you on a one-on-one basis (we want to keep you safe while you’re working to reach your goals!), diet is a huge part of weight loss. You might be interested in looking at the nutrition part of Chris and Heidi’s carb cycling program – it’s awesome, and it works! You can learn about the basics here: https://heidipowell.net/2713. And please discuss this nutrition program with your healthcare team first, and then follow any modifications they recommend, if any. We truly wish you the best!

  8. Hi! I have horrible bunions and had surgery on one of my feet. The doctor realized my bones are too brittle to put the screw in as he originally planned. My feet are full of arthritis too. Since surgery, we’ve discovered I have osteoporosis. My feet hurt with every step. Besides Reebok’s, what shoes are comfortable for you? Also, do high heels not hurt? I can’t even point my toes, nor can I stand on my toes, it’s too painful. I never wore heels often, but miss not being able to wear them at all. Great article, thank you!

  9. I am way late on finding this post, but I’m glad I found it πŸ™‚
    Trying hard to accept my imperfections, maybe you have some advise on how to handle friends and family who use a persons imperfections as their ammo for tearing them down? It’s really hard when the people that you should be able to trust the most are the ones who destroy your self esteem the most. I have been teased since I was a child for my ugly feet, being under weight, or not having big enough boobs ( Embarrassing to admit that one!) Low self esteem has killed my love for exercise, and I have not had workout routine in almost a year πŸ™
    But after reading your thoughts on being perfectly imperfect, I am sitting on my rowing machine writing this after finishing up 20 minutes on it! I can feel my motivation coming back after ready your blog…. Thanks Heidi! πŸ™‚

    1. This is an awesome–and life-changing–post, and I know Heidi is so passionate about this topic. When others try and tear you down, remember that what you think about you is the most important thing, and they’re doing this to you because they are uncomfortable about something going on in their own lives. You got this!

  10. I loved reading this post and love your perfectly imperfect campaign! As someone who also has bunions, I would love to know what kind of shoes you have found that don’t make your feet hurt. I have found I need shoes with a wide toe box but struggle to find those. Any advice?

    1. Hi, I had bunions and they were really painful so I got surgery. Sometimes bunions aren’t just something that might be “ugly” but a medical condition that can be corrected with surgery πŸ™‚

  11. OH WOW! Heidi, I have a whole new level of love for you and Chris. I’ve been watching EWL for years but only really recently got hooked on the #PowellPack!

    I have huge insecurities and had/still do battle with eating disorders so I find you so relatable. When I saw the part about your perfectly imperfect feet! I’m like WOW! I love this woman

  12. Used to read it again and again and again on a bad self esteem day.
    Younger I wanted to be perfect because I taught it was the way to get my mum’s attention because she never noticed me. I spent all my free time from the age of 11 to my 18 birthday trying to get better at school, in sports, trying to make her proud, being the perfect daughter …. until I totally forgot who I was, who I truly was. I was someone I didn’t want to be. But I taught it was making my mum proud of me. I had a depression, a very bad one when I was 18. Tried to kill myself and nearly did. When I woke up in intensive cares with tubes in every part of my body keeping me alive I was in shock. What have I done ? My mum didn’t even show up to the hospital. She didn’t care about me, her own daughter. It hurt a lot but this day I realized that if she never paid attention to me when I was her “perfect” daughter, when I was dying, when I needed her so she was never going to do. This day I realized that I didn’t want to pretend being someone else anymore. I could be myself. When I leaved the hospital I was someone else. It wasn’t easy to not be that perfect girl because pretend being perfect was who I was and acting on the different way wasn’t easy. But now one year and half later my life is so much different. So much better. I did what I wanted to do. I moved in Ireland even if she not agreed. I learnt English, what I always wanted to do. And I accept doing mistakes every day, when I’m speaking . Yes it’s not perfect (sorry about it) but it doesn’t matter. At 20 years old I’m finally myself. The imperfect girl. And you know what ? I love being that girl.

    1. Wow good for you stay strong. And be the best you can be everyday. And most of all love your self for better or worse.

  13. I love you heidi.your real.beautiful and authentic. I love to watch you and I’m always thinking if i could just get to be with her for about one month.just one month of her strenghth, determination, wisdom and insight could change what life .I have left.you understand how women feel,I want to be real enough to turn people’s lives around.. however It may never happen because I have been fighting this battle for 39 years myself.i just can’t t seem to win.keep going and blessing others you were born for this.you bring people freedom, hope and life in this world.ill keep watching and cheering you on.its great to see you both full fill your purpose in life….One person at a time can change the world..

  14. Was feeling extremely imperfect/not good enough…to the point of tears this morning when I found this. Thank you. I really needed this today.

  15. Thank you so much for this Heidi, really. I’m struggling with a food addiction and self worth issues with my many imperfections. Love you and Chris and I always watch EWL.

  16. I so needed to hear this. I just realized recently that I punish my weld with food. Don’t feel as though I deserve to look/feel good. I’ve yo-yoed all my life and when I am in I am all in!!! Hard core! But when I’m out…..I’m horrible to my body!! It’s so sad. I really don’t have anyone I can talk to although my husband is supportive. He doesn’t understand my thoughts and body image disturbance but he respects it. I really don’t want people I am “friends” with on fb to see this post. I need something to kick my a$$!!! Thanks so much for sharing!!!!

  17. Thank you for posting this. I have the same problem with my feet and am always so ashamed to show them. We all appreciate your honesty.

  18. You are a beautiful person, Heidi, inside and out. I read this when I’m feeling down and it’s so inspiring!

  19. Heidi, I don’t know if you will read this or not, but I have to say, I am 32 years old and this post hit home! I have had a few of the same issues as you, and to see you on t.v looking absolutely gorgeous, I too have to accept the perfect imperfections and embrace them…Thank you from the bottom of my heart for this post…really. πŸ™‚

  20. Well said Heidi! Thank you for sharing your imperfections and insecurities. You are one of my biggest role models and I admire you for being so real with us! <3

  21. I love this post. If we were all 100% perfect life would get boring. As Jimmy Buffett says, “if we weren’t all crazy, we would go insane.” It means exactly what you are saying in Rule 62. You can’t take yourself so serious. That would drive someone insane. Stop,smell the roses, and laugh at yourself a little.

  22. Heidi!
    I am so glad to read this! My feet look just like yours and I have always had insecurities with them. So glad to see one of my role models and idols has imperfections just like me! πŸ™‚

  23. Perfect article. Heidi, you are even more beautiful now and thanks for always encouraging and helping other women to feel beautifully flawed too.

  24. Thanks for this,I needed it but I still need to work on myself and how I feel about myself, sadly nothing major can be done because I can’t afford it but only time will tell.


    1. What i have noticed is everyone has their flaws but no one should be ashamed of them. These flaws are what make us unique and apart of who we are. I know i have a ton of flaws and issues with myself. But acceptance is the one way to move forward. This blog is amazing. Heidi Powell you are amazing!!

  25. Heidi you are a true gem beautiful inside and out. You are right there is nothing perfect in this world and to many people judge the outside beauty. Everyone needs to invest on what’s inside a person! Wish people were more more like you!! I continue to ensure I am comfortable in my own skin and be proud of who I am. Thanks for sharing!!! Keep doing what you do!!! MRoz – Az

  26. i think u look beautiful au natural..i watch u and chris every week and i can relate to most of the people on ur show..ive been a compulsive over eater for almost 30 years and i have been obese for 20 of those..currently i am 224 lbs with a BMI of 38..i have stage 2 diastolic heart failure, hypertension, high cholesterol, GERD and sleep apnea..i suffer with reflex sympathetic dystrophy and fibromyalgia so it is difficult to exercise although it is necessary to keep active because of it..to complicate things i have suffered with depression and anxiety for as long as i can remember..ive always had such a negative view of myself and all this weight makes it even worse..i cant even stand to look at myself..i have tried lots of diets and exercise plans and have even contemplated bariatric surgery..i start out positive and energetic but always fail..financially i am unable to seek any other help..i know i am not as obese as ur regular clients but i dont see a way to lose this weight and get back my health without ur help..i believe in what u do for ur clients and i believe that u could help me..all i ask for is a chance..i would appreciate any help u could give me..i want to be around for my kids and my grandchild..and for once in my life i want to actually like myself..thanks for all u do

    1. Hi Pam: Thank you for sharing your story with us. Check out Chris and Heidi’s carb cycling program in their book, “Choose More, Lose More for Life.” It’s a complete nutrition and exercise program, and it’s the same one they use on the show. Learn about the nutrition basics here: https://heidipowell.net/2713/carb-cycling-101/. With all your health issues, it’s best if you discuss their program with your healthcare team so you can work together to put a modified carb cycling program in place that can help you reach your goals and stay safe in the process. You can do this! πŸ™‚

  27. Thank you so much! This brought tears to my eyes! I know we can all find beauty in the “imperfect” and thank you so much for reminding us that imperfect is beautiful. I have rheumatoid arthritis, arthralgia, fibromyalgia and gout sometimes and through all the pain and suffering, I fear that one day I will be so crippled and my hands would be so deformed, but this only gives me more hope and inspires me to press on and find beauty and enjoy the life that God has given me. I keep working out despite the pain and imperfections! Thank you and hugs!

  28. Heidi, you just made me smile from ear to ear! I had to laugh out loud (for real) at some of your imperfections because we share a few. I, too, have a lazy eye (only when its time to take a picture) and it bugs me to no end! In fact I like to refer to the normal eye as “big eye”. I have freckles that make me feel like a cheetah and a list of other “imperfections” to rival yours but you know what, it’s all part of my story. You are an awesome inspiration! Thank you!!

  29. Thank you. It seems that we all are trying to measure up to our own goals, or what we determine to be perfect… even if it’s not an accurate perception. Do you think that plastic surgery such as breast augmentation is okay to get? Especially for some one who is thin and has lost their figure because they are fit or do you think that everyone should be happy as long as they are at a low weight and not get surgery to obtain a better look that cannot happen naturally?

    1. Sara, if enhancements make YOU feel stronger & more confident, then why would that not be ok? Do it for yourself thou, not anyone’s else’s ideas of perfect! How is that any different than getting teeth whitened or straightened? It can make us more confident in our own skin πŸ™‚

  30. It’s weird to say this out loud but to be honest when I look at myself.. really look at myself I look beautiful. ..wow!!! But then I step back and see FAT. It’s hard to feel beautiful when what makes me ugly is the only thing I see. I can appreciate every flaw that the Lord gave me and I can’t control BUT me being over weight .. I did that to myself.. and I could change that.

    Sometimes I need to stop and remind do myself that I am better that what I see and to look beyond the outer shell.

  31. Thanks for reminding us Heidi! I have been struggling with an eating disorder for half of my life and your posts have been such a place of encouragement. Though I am not completely “cured”, I workout daily, eat (mostly) right and have been “clean” for about a month. Though I still have urges, I gain so much encouragement from your site. Thank you for being a source of encouragement and inspiration during this imperfect time in my life. -Em =)

  32. Heidi, Thanks for sharing that, you always look perfect, glad to hear you have a few flaws like the majority of us. I applaud your honesty, you are an inspiration!

  33. I definitely needed to hear that today! 4 pregnancies have done a number on my body! You know how it is. Things don’t quite snap back the way that they used to. My husband is a beautiful personal trainer and I often find myself comparing my body to his… Falling short. Being a stay at home mom to three boys under 4, I don’t have the gym time like I crave. Yesterday I did a quick kettlebell workout in the bathroom after breakfast. Lol. Thank you for reminding me that I’m okay! I’m beautiful:) Goals are a part of a process that that I’ll enjoy much more with a positive attitude and a perfectly imperfect mindset about myself. Thank you!

  34. Thank you so much for being you,this is just what i needed to hear and my daughter as well ,i cry sometimes because she thinks shes so unwanted from people cause of her differant look then most,im sure once i show this to her ,it will help her to,Thanks

  35. I met you and your Beautiful Family and to me you all are Perfect!! not because of looks but because of Heart ! I felt such a warmth from your whole family. The Love you all share with each other shows through your Happy Beautiful children πŸ™‚ Keep up this perfection and the other just follows

  36. This blog is perfect!! I have quit a few of the same issues as you from the bunions up. Thank you for showing us to see the beauty in our flaws. If we were all the same it would be so boring!

  37. I love that you have bunions! lol. I do too. I thought only 80 year old women had them. I am SO SO SO self conscious of them. I love both you and Chris and somehow knowing that you have them makes it a little less horrible that I do!

  38. Love your blog on perfection! You are so right we all have imperfections! I was raised that imperfection was a weakness and not to share any thing negative about yourself. Truth is no one is perfect and if someone thinks they are they are delusional! πŸ™‚

  39. This is me every day of my 36 years of life… It’s a great blog and definitely made me think about things differently although I may have to work on feeling comfortable with myself with no make up on…I struggle to as much as look in a mirror without it haha

  40. I think that you’re absolutely beautiful…physically, yes, but have you seen the way you are with anyone that you have inspired? <3

  41. thank you!! maybe you need a translator for my comment im not speek a good english

    Soy una chica de M?xico que ha sufrido un cambio en su cuerpo.. tengo 30 kilos de sobrepeso y es muy dificil aceptarme con mi nuevo cuerpo, aun asi sigo luchando para mejorar pero es muy dificil cuando uno es quien se sabotea y ademas pretando atencion a personas negativas que critican a personas con sobrepeso. Tu articulo lo lei con gusto y tienes tanta razon, no es comun que una persona del medio artistico acepte y comparta sus defectos eso habla muy bien de ti, gracias por tomarte el tiempo de hacer tu articulo. un abrazo

  42. Thanks for that blog. That is totally me. I have a big nose, and my second toe is longer than the big toe, and I have weight issues. I could go on and on. It is refreshing to see someone a beautiful as you have the same issues I have. Blessings.

  43. I find myself in a slump right now. I hate my body want to be thinner. I haven’t been able to work out due to a bad car accident lost my home finances are tough so I comfort eat. I’ve had to stay at a friends at night but mostly live out of my car during the day. Trying with agencies to get rental help. I feel so frustrated. I volunteer and raised my childtrn all alone who are now grown. I hope you can help. You are inspiring.

  44. When I had my second child I suffered from bells palsy when half my face went numb doctors thought I had a stroke but luckily it wasnt but when I take pictures I have to position myself because my face never recovered to its original state and I cant stand taking pictures

  45. Thanks you!!!!! I like you sooo much!!!! It’s ALWAYS when i need the most that i see n read your post… Even if i don’t understand everything (i speak french)….It’s a little sunshine in my darkness!! πŸ™‚

  46. awesome ya we all have our flaws. mine is my weight, hair growth on my chin and acne and somedays i accept it and other days i struggle . but i keep trying to get healthy and wont give up till i have enough motivation too follow through

  47. I think you are wonderful and you and Chris are an inspiration! You have a beautiful family and you both inspire me each and every day. I really love your blog, it’s great you shared what you do to prepare for your day. I think many women try to strive for perfect and compare ourselves to women we see as perfect and it’s a good reminder that everyone has something they don’t like about themselves and we all work to be the best self we can be and that is really the most important thing. Being the beat version of who we each are.
    Thank you for all you and Chris do!

  48. I really liked your blog, so happy that i saw it. Right now I have many imperfections that i’m working on. My weight happens to be the biggest one, i’m on this journey to being healthy. I use to look at my bi polar disorder as an imperfection but now i look at it as a perfect imperfection. My illness has allowed me to help others, and i wouldn’t trade that in for anyhting else in this world <3

  49. Heidi,

    Loved your blog! Thank you so much for reposting and am so glad you wrote about imperfection since we are living in a world where the media strongly suggests we need to be perfect in order to have worth, and this is such an imperfect world!

    A lot of people also think that because the Bible talks about perfection that they have to be perfect. So they try to please God and earn “points”. This is SO NOT NECESSARY! In Hebrew the word “perfect” actually means complete.

    I did a little “Googling” and I found this on a webpage called The Voice: “The Hebrew word (tam or tamim) does not carry the meaning of “without flaw” as does the term “perfect” in English. It normally means complete or mature or healthy (for example, Lev 22:21). That meaning of mature dominates most use of the Greek term in the New Testament (telos).

    Something, or someone, can be complete or mature yet not be “without flaw.” In fact, it is much easier to be mature and still have flaws, than it is to be without error or without flaw. Many people are mature, but few if any are “without flaw.” A six year old can be mature, and still have a lot of growing to do.”

    So you are right on the money! God does not make junk! He even says we are wonderfully made: You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body and knit them together in my mother?s womb. Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex! It is amazing to think about. Your workmanship is marvelous?and how well I know it. You were there while I was being formed in utter seclusion! Psalm 139:13-15

    So I say we should embrace our imperfections and take one step at a time towards completeness! I like to say progress not perfection!

    And by the way, I think everyone would agree that you don’t need extensions, and you are beautiful just the way you are; with your bunions and without your makeup in the morning. πŸ™‚

    Thanks for being you,
    Pam Hanna

  50. This brought tears to my eyes. Thank you for the reminder that we are all perfectly imperfect πŸ™‚

  51. Oh thank you thank. Sorry to say this but I also have bunions! And you being so cute …..ok it make me as a 57 year old women feel better. I love shoes but hate having to look for the right ones. I never wear heels. (Never did) Ok…..drum roll please….I live in Peoria, AZ. Just got here. Don’t know my way around….Help if you can. Where can one get shoes with feel like mine. I’m from the Netherlands and I think I’m the only one there that does not have boots. Ya, my feet hurt! Where do you get your shoes!??? Thank you. And love your blog. But still with out doing any of that , make up, hair…etc. you are so cute. Come talk to me at my age. lol
    Thank you.

  52. I saw this yesterday, but was interrupted and I didn’t read it until just now. How perfect that worked out. I needed it more today than yesterday. Sometimes it hurts to be perfect, but at least I know I’m being honest and not a fraud. Thanks for sharing. You rock Heidi!!

  53. O saw this yesterday, but was interrupted and I didn’t read it until just now. How perfect that worked out. I needed more today than yesterday. Sometimes it hurts to be perfect, but at least I know I’m being honest and not a fraud. Thanks for sharing. You rock Heidi!!

  54. Thank you for this blog. You really said it well, we are all perfect in our own imperfect ways. I am thankful to know that even a woman as beautiful as you has the dreaded bunion like me!! Those things are a bear.
    You are an inspiration as a woman, mother and wife, that you for letting me into your life and sharing?it means a lot.

  55. One day I was putting on my make up. My little 5 year old grand daughter was watching. I began to complain about how ugly I was with so many wrinkles. I looked at her and she was studying me with an odd look on her face. She then said, in all seriousness, “But Meme, you are my grand ma and you are suppose to have wrinkles.” Somehow that made it all ok, or at least better.

  56. My philosophy in life for life fits this blog entry.. well perfectly! Each and every one of use is ‘perfect’ just the way we are. God made us each different, unique and no 2 people are 100% the same.. even twins/triplets.. etc. We are all unique. I never wanted to be like someone else, just better for me. When I learned to love me for me, even when I was so very heavy and un-healthy.. I still loved me mind, heart and soul. My decision to take care of myself physically and with lifestyle dietary changes, was to prolong my life.. to be healthy and stop covering that emotional baggage with my outer shell.. but still loved that person I was. So.. that simple philosophy? Why not love you for you? You are one in a billion, trillion, the only YOU of YOU on this planet.. so love that for what it is! Not to envy what others have that you desire, but love you!! Perfectly perfect for you!

  57. Heidi, you’re sensational! It takes courage to admit your own faults in public, even more courage to do it since you are a public figure. Thanks Heidi for showing me the way, your post made ??me feel better after a day in which my eating disorder had been pushed me to think about suicide. Thank you for making me think.

    1. Francesca thank you for being so brave to share this. Life has its ups and downs but is definitely worth living. Sending you much love.

  58. Love this post Heidi! Chris has always helped to inspired me but kinda felt was missing a little something and now following you, it was the female input! You both are spectacular, imperfect and all πŸ™‚
    Cheers !

  59. I know I am of infinite worth, that my Heavenly Father created me, yet I have struggled all my life to truly believe that! If we could only see ourselves through the eyes of our God, we would see each other as beautiful princesses!
    I have battle with obesity all my life so I have never I have felt pretty! I have lost 200 pounds on my own and still not good enough! So what is good enough? And what is beautiful? It has been a life time trying to find those answers!
    Thank you for sharing a little corner of your personal life!

  60. At 16 years old you were my role model. At 19 years old you are still my role models. Ive always tried to help myself. It usually fails. But when I read or watch the changes you and Chris have helped with, I take a further step. I no longer drink soda pop and are eating less for meals and snacks. Control is most definitely my imperfection. Hoping someday I can receive help if I cant fix it on my own. Its difficult going to school and having a strict dress code. Know that you’ve gotta tuck in your shirt. The emmense feel of hopelessness and doubt that I feel waking up to do this each morning. In conclusion, I do agree that we most definitely all have imperfections and they do weigh us down a bit but we do ALWAYS have to learn from them. Im glad to have such wonder inspirations in the world. Its a blessing to see you change others. It gives me so much hope.

  61. thanks for sharing your perfect imperfections. I have so many too and i try to make myself look perfect biut cant..1 of mine is that i had a chemical reaction to chemo and i was chemically burned from inside out and my skin looks darker on parts of my body especially my legs are all discolored..oh well..im not the only one not perfect..thanks again for sharing your story

  62. Hello Heidi I too would love to know where you get your hair clip PLEEEEEEEEASE Since turning 40 my hair is soooooooo thin but I want a piece that looks real and natural and your clip looks AMAZING ???? Thanks for helping and being so REAL with us πŸ™‚

  63. Accepting yourself for who you are can be extremely hard when you feel like nobody accepts you and you just wander through life being honest and wanting to be accepted. It is only human nature to want and to feel accepted. It it’s really hard when society is attracted to glam and what is pretty before they try to see what is real in a person. I feel people don’t even give me a chance because of my weight and lack of makeup and hairstyles along with my love of being comfortable in jeans, t-shirts, and sneakers. Do I need to get dolled up first to get people to see me? I don’t wear makeup, I don’t wear heels, and my favorite and only hair styling tool is a hairbrush. I guess I’ll just remain unnoticed. Heidi and Chris…I love you guys. I enjoy the posts on fb.

  64. I really needed to hear this! I always look at you and think to myself…now here is a woman who is perfect! I don’t know why but it makes us feel better knowing we aren’t alone in our “imperfections”. And I think that you and your huspand are Awesome!

  65. Thank you for what you wrote. It’s a good reminder to appreciate what we all have. I struggle with this daily to the point where I’m consumed. In all reality, I look really great for my age. I just wish I would really believe it. At almost 46, I struggle still with these thoughts but am finally working on fixing that. I’ve spent countless hours working out on my body but what good is it if your thinking is out if shape

  66. Thanks for sharing.I feel much better now.I would like to write to yoy in private please.both of you are awesome!

  67. Thank you so much for sharing this!!! I’ve always been so self conscious about my toes. My 2nd is longer than the big toe by just a biit & Ive always tried hiding it with long dresses etc & gave up wearing alot of cute heels ,wsomeone brought it up once (can’t believe they actually did that) . Going to embrace my imperfections from now on!

  68. Your words hit home. Thank you, Heidi!
    You & your husband are incredibly inspiring
    & helped me through a rough time last year –
    The end of a decade long relationship. It could’ve
    broken me but reading your words helps me stay
    focused & know I am more than enough.

    Oh, I have a bunion, too & I argue with myself to keep going during most of my workouts.
    Watching my health stats get in line (ie: bp, cholesterol, BG, weight, etc) helps.

    Thanks again!!


  69. This made me feel good thanks for sharing. I’ve been in a struggle to lose weight for 10 years now. I have lost 45 pounds since November of 2013! It’s so hard to stick with it! I really need some help with it! This helped me see what I have done so far I should be happy with instead of upsetting myself about what other people think of me! Thank you!

  70. B”H
    Heidi- I went from being a huge fan to loving you! This post is life altering. Thank you for being brave and honest. Keep up your holy work- you are changing the world.

  71. Thanks 4 this! You’re 1 of the very few celebrities who admit this & share
    with the rest if us – who think you are ALL born perfect! Love u guys!

  72. THANK YOU for sharing this message. I’ve heard it from you today and the last 3 days from my Christian daily devotional. I guess maybe God is trying to tell me something???? I am perfectly imperfect too!

  73. thanks for this… i recently had a revelation that has changed my perspective with regard to being concerned with outward appearance. i realized that when i die, NOBODY will be saying “she was so nice, but too bad about that prominent bump on her nose.” or “she was so funny, but boy, her fashion sense was off.” NOBODY… when all is said and done, i want my legacy to be one of compassion, generosity, and happiness. i am done feeling self-conscious about anything else, because it really, truly does not matter!

  74. I definitely needed this! Thank you for being so open and honest. You and Chris are amazing people! Xoxo

  75. Heidi,
    Years ago I heard a friend say we are all designers originals. It’s so positive and encouraging especially in those times I am so aware of my own imperfections. You are a beautiful woman; mom, wife and … the list goes on as you are so many things to so many people. Thank you for sharing how perfectly imperfect you are. πŸ™‚ You are real and honest which makes you seem normal. lol

  76. Great post. You are just like us all women . Keep up the great work you & Chris do. Great inspiration to us all !!!

  77. This was so helpful! I hate my flaws and never looked at them from your angle! I like it. It reminds me to ease up on myself!! Mom of four boys, thanks!

  78. Thank you for this it made me feel better I too am my worst critic, and you really made me think hard about myself my husbands tells me everyday that my imperfections is what truly makes me unique and thats why ne falls deeper in love with me everday more and more..my soul mate, the other half of my missing self and my best best friend

  79. So don’t be fake and loose the Snottsdale hairpiece and go on camera without makeup and stop the plastic surgery. A “hairpiece” for vanity is NOT a necessary evil. Stupid. Just be yourself.

  80. Thank you so much for sharing. Three weeks out from a breast reduction /reconstruction/implant surgery, I was having a melt down type of a day. I don’t feel like myself at all. I wanted smaller and thinking I’m not perfect. Well, you made me realize that other people have imperfections in their eyes and they are doing just fine. Thanks.

  81. Nice to read your imperfections Heidi, I hope people read this and realize that all of us are not perfect, just strive to be the best you can be, that you are a gift to yourself, so treat yourself with respect, self worth, and love, life is great, just the way you are!

  82. Thank you so much for your words of wisdom. I will take it to heart and work harder on being my imperfect perfect person.

  83. So true. Learning to love myself and to accept me for me. Easier said then done. Loved your post n blog girl! Keep up the encouragement to help others ?Jonnie Cassens

  84. Wow. What a beautiful post. I wish we all had this drip fed to us from when we were born. Can you imagine what the media and advertising industries would do if imperfection was acceptable? How liberating, but the first step is to adopt this message and allow ourselves to be real πŸ™‚

  85. Wow! This is truly inspiring. I thank you, for sharing this with us. You and Chris have been such a huge inspiration to me.. This just shows everyone is perfectly imperfect.

  86. This is awesome and thank you! There are so many young women out there that strive to be what they see from stars and celebrities alike. Unfortunatley at that age it reaks havoc on their self esteem and they end up with eating disorders, self esteem issues, harming themselves and worse!
    Thank you for being you…, That’s what makes you so beautiful inside and out!!!! Kudos…

  87. Thank you so much for posting this, I really needed to hear this. I am my own worst critic and struggle every second of the day with finding my flaws, making myself workout, either not eating too many calories or not starving myself and constantly feeling unworthy and not good enough. It really helped me to read that someone like you who I look up to and think has it all deals with some of the same issues. Thanks so much for baring and sharing πŸ™‚

  88. I love your “realness”! Your not afraid to show the real you behind the makeup and hair and all of the glam! You and Chris are a great couple and change people’s lives for the better! Not many people can say that. Keep on doing what you’re doing πŸ™‚

  89. As a nurse and a patient of this surgery….DO NOT HAVE UR BUNIONS OPERATED ON!! I had a good surgery but as being a runner prior too, it took my full range of motion away and I can no longer run or do hard boot camp anymore. It’s been 3 years!

  90. Thanks! You are an inspiration! We tend to forget those snapshots of other people’s lives as the full picture!

  91. Best blog ever!!! I’ve always liked you & think you’re stunning… But thanks for being real too, you rock!

  92. You said it beautifully! I’m going to be 50 next year (January), and I’ve come to realize that I no longer care what people think of how I look. If I want to wear makeup (or not), it’s my decision. My Husband used to have to wait for me and he would often say “can’t go out without putting your face on for your public”. I have 4 kids, a Husband, full-time job, etc. Who really cares if I’m wearing mascara or not! Most of the time, people don’t even notice.

  93. Although our late dad’s share a birthday I wished they had Rule 62 & felt inner beauty was more. I am 45 years old and I have a great deal of self hate! But it’s not always there. I was always told you have such a pretty face if you would just loose weight. So nothing else had value. I struggle everyday and probably why I have gained 39 lbs in the last 6 months after losing 80 the year before. thank you, your blog gave me something to think about!

  94. Thank you for posting this. I find i dont love myself ( mainly my body) like i should. My husband loves me no matter what shape and size ive been at, i just want to love myself as much as he loves my body. Its nice to have a reminder that no body is perfect. And i think you look beautiful even pre makeup and hair πŸ™‚

  95. Thank you ever so much for posting this. I’ve really changed my life around by improving my health by losing weight and gaining a lot of confidence. This post was just icing on the cake. I recently saw a picture of you on Instagram and I remember scrolling back to look and thinking you look so incredibly beautiful and how I wished I looked as pretty as you. But I love myself and how I look so the old feelings of sadness and longing quickly passed as soon as they came. Thank you so much for reiterating my perfectly imperfect self is so beautiful and wonderful.

  96. Good points – trying to be perfect just sounds exhausting!
    I wrote a song once that included the lyric, “You [God] love me for a reason, and You made me with way on purpose.” It’s a good thing to remember.

  97. I just told my 6 year old today that she is beautifull the way she is for everything that makes her who she is. Cause that is who we love. <3 She had a moment at school, which will happen more often where a girl says she is ugly or her shoes arent up to latest kidd fashion. Nonsense, kids (and adults) need to know what is most important and that is selfworth, respect and love. If you have that, you can pass any judgement, But it is easier said than done thats for sure…..

  98. Thank you for posting this. Lately I have been feeling a little down about my body after nursing two babies for over a year each. My “girls” are deflated and tiny. When I look in the mirror I think about how sad they look; but I try to remind myself that they nourished my children for a very long time and that that is worth it.

  99. Thanks for sharing! So beautifully said and something women go through and might not speak much about. But this is truth…. Thanks again! BTW,you are beautiful inside, not just outwardly. God bless your family

  100. Heidi,
    I am a 37 year old mother of three. Thank you SO much for sharing. It is so easy to focus on the negatives, instead of giving ourselves credit for all the good. I needed this reminder. Thanks again for all you do!!

  101. You can’t imagine how this post will help me, in so many way…thanks to make me feel a bit more proud of myself.

  102. Hi Heidi ! Your post make me smile a lot ! You know what ? I’ve got Marvel limited edition Pull-in underwear, when I have it, I couldn’t help but sonder… Is that making me invincible ?!? Sure ! ‘Cause I’ve got “She Hulk” & “Electra” on it !
    We girls, we’re so Per-fect !!!

  103. ?Vulnerability is the birthplace of innovation, creativity and change.? ? Bren? Brown

    I am in no way related to the author of this quote, via the same last name, but this researcher has done excellent work in discovering the path to overcoming shame lies in vulnerability. You are right, we are all perfectly and wonderfully made. Your vulnerability is your most beautiful asset.

  104. Thanks Heidi you are a inspiration to us all! I have 30lbs to loose and I am really struggling with knowing how to change my eating I never learned this when I was young. I have sat on the couch and went back to sleep everyday this week after my kids leave for school feeling like I will never look the way I want to look! I have clothes in my closet that I don’t get rid of hoping to fit someday that I got from a friend who is skinny! I love all you and Chris do it’s amazing!

  105. Thanks Heidi for sharing this! Its a daily reminder I need often to embrace the perfectly imperfect me. πŸ˜‰ With so much comparison in the world there is always someone else with the same insecurities and faults as me. I just need to “OWN IT” and love ME for who I am. Thank you for the encouragement and most of all showing that we are all perfectly imperfect. πŸ™‚

  106. Thank you for being real. And for including not only physical areas where you think you are imperfect, but also the personal areas that people don’t always see in other people because we all try to hide it. I love your whole family for being so real.

  107. OMG…This is how I was feeling today and for the past many years of my life. It is good to know that I am not the only that thinks this way, it is not easy when you get so wrapped up with yourself that you need reminders every single day, almost every minute of the day. My head starts thinking of my imperfections and then it takes off so fast that I can’t even catch it sometimes and then I hit the brick crying wall. Thanks Heidi for telling us about the real you and inspiring us who think that same way. It’s comforting to know someone who is in the spotlight(if you must say) is still human like the rest of us. Thank you.

  108. Fantastic post. Thanks for putting your perfect imperfections out there. That took guts. Society needs more of this.

  109. Great post. Being a trainer I find a lot of my clients think they will be happy when they hit a certain weight or size. I really try to get them to love themselves exactly where they are, but enough to change into the best they can be.

  110. Heidi, My husband and I had the pleasure of meeting you when you presented at BestAZ. As I listened to you both that evening I felt you were both “Real”. It wasn’t about makeup, muscles or celebrity appearance. It was a beautiful couple that shared their pasts, their struggles and their love and passion for paying it forward! I am a 3 time cancer survivor. Many parts are missing and some parts have been rebuilt. I look in the mirror and see scars, but hide them in public. I give the world what they want to see rather then scare them with the truth. That night you guys did an incredible job showing love and compassion. You inspired me! We attended the program again last night and have signed up! I hope to see you both again, but whatever the future brings,please know that you are beautiful inside and out. Thank you for being you!

  111. Well said. I once had some call me a “poor thing” as I confessed to not wearing makeup when going out despite suffering from adult acne. To which I replied “Why? Im still a good person” I believe when you become cool with the things about yourself that may be seen to whoever as undesirable, everything falls into place and becomes super groovy.

  112. What a great thought for the day! I am perfect, perfectly imperfect! I can enjoy my day knowing that I don’t have to be perfect at ALL things. My obsession is trying to be perfect at all I strive to do! Thank you for the realization.
    Thank you for the thought of the day for me!

  113. Thank you soooo much for sharing this. These are things people live with everyday, and it feels good not to feel alone. We are all human, and have to realize how perfect our imperfections are! πŸ™‚

  114. Interesting article. Thanks for sharing how perfectly-imperfect we all are. I love your candidness about your daily life.

  115. Thank you so much for this real and heartfelt post. It’s so easy to focus on flaws as a negative instead of embracing yourself imperfections and all.

  116. Thank you so much for this post.. & for being so authentic and real!!! I so needed to hear that today πŸ™‚

  117. Heidi, I love how REAL you are! If only so many more people would embrace perfectly imperfect ideals! You and Chris are such genuine people and that is such a large reason why people love you guys-myself included! Thanks for being REAL!

  118. You are such an inspiration Heidi! I love look at you and Chris’s advice everyday. You are my true role models! Cant wait for EWL to come back in May! I really hope to meet you both some day!

  119. Heidi, I want to give you the biggest hug ever. After reading this, I feel so much better. And here I was complaining about my imperfect list. I’m still in a funk today but tomorrow is another day. Thank you again. BTW, you look great without makeup.

  120. Heidi, thank you so much for this post. We all have things about us we don’t like, thank you for being open an honest with every one. When I see you I see perfection, I didn’t know about your hair clips or your bunions. :). Its nice to know you are human to.

  121. I needed to hear this as well! Keep up the great work! You and your husband inspired me all the time. I have now lost a total of 80 pounds!!!!

  122. Heidi thank you so much for posting this. It is wonderful for other to see that we are not all perfect in any way. Life is a challenge for everyone.

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