I Can’t!

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I’m sure this incredible woman needs no introduction to those that watch Extreme Weight Loss religiously. But for anyone that may have missed one of our most jaw-dropping transformations every, meet Jacqui McCoy. Not only is Jacqui an inspiration to the millions that got to know her on ABC last summer, but she is also one of my biggest role models in life. Jacqui McCoy is beautiful inside and out, and has words of wisdom beyond her years.

“I Can’t”
by Jacqui McCoy

Celebrity Trainer Chris Powell does not accept "I can't" - Learn more at https://heidipowell.net/2678

The two most hated words of trainers and coaches every where are the word?s: I can?t. I know every time I was presented with something very challenging, especially in the beginning as much as I tried my hardest not to utter those two negative words they often did slipped out of my mouth before I could catch myself. Chris Powell and his wife, Heidi,  as well as my local trainer, Matt Franco, would be pretty frustrated when I would tell them I can?t do it. These are some things I learned about saying ?I can?t!?

1) Don?t say you can?t do something unless you try it first. Sometimes I would defeat myself mentally before I even gave it a shot. Give it your best try and see what happens. You may surprise yourself! Most trainers will not ask you to do something you can?t physically do but they want to challenge you. The challenges change your body and empowers your mind.

2) What I can?t usually truly means is: I?m scared. It is SO ok to be scared. I know my trainers would have been way more receptive to me telling them that the truth was that I had fear and anxiety and was way out of my comfort zone. In fact once I started owning up to being afraid they found ways to coach me through it and help me face my fears. One of my biggest fears was box jumps. In fact I refused to do them for a really long time. I did box step up?s instead. One day another trainer of mine in Arizona, Aj Richards, just would not let me get out of it. He knew I could do it. I told him I was terrified of the tripping on the box. So, he made a stack of weights for me the same height as the box and said ?ok, now try it, you can?t trip on these.? I was still afraid but I did it, and was amazed I could actually do it! It was a huge victory and I was so glad he helped me face my fears.

3) Sometimes you really can?t do it. There were things that no matter how hard I tried I just wasn?t able to do what was asked of me. I wasn?t at the fitness or strength level to complete the task. However, I never say I can?t do it anymore. I say I am not able to do it YET, but I will keep training until I can. Changing your mindset really will change your health and your body.

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54 Responses

  1. I too find that if I say “I can’t” before I even try I set myself up for failure. If I keep my mouth shut and my mind open I usually succeed much faster than I would have doubting myself.

  2. I don’t like the word can’t either. I feel like if a work out is challenging and works you to the core, the more I want to keep going back. I need variety to keep me engaged.

  3. It’s funny because most of the time when I’m watching a workout video and the start a move I laugh and say oh I can’t do that but I usually find that if I tell myself to just try to do one, I usually can do one (No always all of them)Next time I might do more. THe way you think about it can make a big difference!

  4. This was my favorite word “I can’t” now after watching this episode over again and watching this season, I say well I will try, its pretty cool what I can do now, still working on me every day. Thanks for everything Chris and Heidi.

  5. This reminds me of in school a sign that said success comes in Cans not Can’ts. Being overweight you think you can’t do things but I have learned if you just try you can do a lot more then you think. I have lost 50 pounds, it has been very slow, but I know I can do it and I will do it.

  6. LOVE THIS article! I learn everyday that “I can’t” isnt worth saying anymore! It’s not an option! Still working on removing it from my vocabulary!… & improving πŸ™‚

  7. Wow! Thanks for this. I have been tempted many times to say I can’t. Your tips definitely hit the nail on the head.

  8. I had to go thru alot to get these words outta my vocabulary. they are the worst when it comes to making lifestyle changes. When you say them one time it can start that downward spiral over and over again. Now its just “get er dun” and so far everything is going back in the right direction.

  9. I am so tired and exhausted, going to have to read this in the morning
    My eyes are falling asleep at the computer screen but I will get more out of it in the morning it sounds like I need to read it

  10. Interesting to read this tonight as I was just talking with a friend today about how my trainer teased me this morning. He said we were headed over to the boxes and I asked what we were doing and he said jump ups and I said I didn’t think so. I think he knows I’m not able to do those right now, but in talking to my friend today I acknowledged that I have a mental aversion to jumping in any form, even on the floor, so really it is true, our thought is the controller of all things physical. Change that and anything is possible!!

  11. Someone once told me that “I can’t” means “I won’t”. I still try not to say those words. Zumba is really helping me to exercise and NOT quit. It’s sooo much fun and I love it so much that no matter how much I think I can’t take another step, the next song comes on and I just can’t help dancing. After doing this for 3 months I’m discovering that I CAN do whatever I want. I walked a 5k a few weeks ago! I was soo proud of myself that I’m beginning to think I could run at least part of the next 5k. And when I discover I can do that, I can keep doing more and more. All because I love zumba and it’s teaching me that I CAN!!

  12. I always have to tell my self when I hit a wall “just one more!” Though some days my mental block gets the best of me, I just have someone around to push me

  13. Thank you Chris and Heidi for showing us every week that you can do anything if you put your heart, mind and soul in it! I watch your show every week and try to remember what you tell them when I am needing a little push! You are both amazing people that I only wish I had the honor to meet one day! You have so much heart and make people believe in themselves! Thank you every week for your inspiration!

  14. I have to really remind myself every time I workout that there maybe things I cant do now but as I get to my goal weight it will get easier. For instance when I first started working out I couldn’t do one push-up without being on my knees as of tonight I could do five, yayyyy! that’s huge I think and I know it will happen with other exercises I currently cant do for example pull-ups… one day…you can do it!

  15. I agree – the words “I can’t” really are debilitating. I’ve learned lately that I REALLY CAN!!!! It’s amazing!!! My highest weight was 230 and today I was at 204.5!!!! Almost in ONEderland!!!!!

  16. Extreme Weightloss is such an inspiring show, I can’t get enough of it.
    I am 20 years old and have gained significant amount of pounds in the past two years (70lbs). I always tell myself I can’t, and deep down I know it’s just an excuse. Congratulations to you and Chris for being my motivators πŸ™‚

  17. This makes so much sense! It really comes down to mind over matter. I love how she ends by saying”I say I am not able to do it YET” instead of saying I can’t.

  18. I am so disappointed I didn’t get a chance to see this episode but I do watch religiously now

  19. How do you change your thinking? Its so easy for me to say “I Can’t” and “I don’t want to”. How does one break the habit to begin to say “I can” and “I do want this”.

  20. I swear I tell myself this during every workout now! “I CAN!” Because after watching episodes of EWL I remember Chris says this, that we can its just a mental thing and to push through it!

  21. Great job! I’m so glad to see she is still inspiring others and continuing with her healthy lifestyle ! It really puts things into perspective. These are lifestyle changes and not diets as most diets seem to end once you have reached a desired goal or weight! My starting weight in June 2012 was 320lbs through lifestyle changes I’m currently weighing 168lbs and 28 lbs from my goal weight! I’ve turned down gastric bypass surgery and have reversied my high blood pressure. When I need an extra boost of motivation I often check your blog or instagram and I know I can do it !
    Steph

  22. I am in the end of my transformation! I already lost 36kg, around 5kg to go. Once I saw Powell pack on TV and since then I started to believe that everything is possible. I wish u could come to the Netherlands :))

  23. Just commenting to win a signed copy of Choose More, Lose More for Life! Jacqui is such an inspiration and defferently in my top five favorite transformations of all time!

  24. I actually remember her from last season and loved her episode because it struck close to home. And I remember thinking if she can do I can at least try. So I have been trying and with little success on my own until I read Chris Powell’s book seriously changed SO much for me mentally.

  25. used to say “I can’t” all the time. I have started walking and even added some very slow jogging in. I CAN go a litte farther everyday!!

  26. I know the feeling. Can’t is a bad habit basically. I just don’t have anyone there telling me that I can.. Ugh I need that extra boost..

  27. This is such a great article. As I have begun my own transformation this year I have become aware of so many things that I do to derail myself. One of them being “I can’t”. I am shocked at the amount of time I catch myself saying I Can’t, even if it is only mentally. Part of it is as Jacqui points out, fear…fear of failing, fear of the unknown, fear of stepping out of that comfort zone. Part of it is having slid unconsciously into being so used to my weight and physical challenges being a barrier that I have to shift my frame of mind as I lose and reach new levels of fitness.

  28. I have the bad habit of always saying I Can’t and I know that it is because I am afraid to fail. I need to work on this. Thank you for sharing!

  29. I guess my trainers are pretty frustrated with me – I say “I can’t” all the time and I shake my head too. Truth be told, it is the fear and I can really relate to the jump box. I have ruled that out – period. Maybe it is time to try. Trying and failing is better than not trying at all.

  30. Thank you Jacqui for the inspiration. I have only a few things I feel I can’t do…lol I will put your advise to work on me. Thanks again

  31. Great insight. I know at age 50 I have joints that pop that never used to! However, I have joined the rec center at the college I work at. I’m spending lots of time in the pool swimming laps. There was a time when I would have said “I can’t” just at the sheer horror of being in public in a swim suit. However, I don’t care because it’s all about ME!

  32. Love this because I have seen this in many. I recently took my mom water walking and before this she said she couldn’t get in the water, and now I can’t get her out.. πŸ™‚

  33. This is something I truly struggle with. I was at the gym this morning and used I can’t. Even though I was working by myself (and talking to myself…LOL), one of the trainers yelled at me…yes you can!. Sometimes I get so frustrated that my body will not do what I want it to do. It is easy to get defeated. I took a quick break to reset and then did it. Super proud of myself

  34. This was a great blog post with such great tips! I’m personally at that point where changing my mindset is going to make the difference for me to get to the next level of my weight loss and health transformation. I needed to hear these tips and read this tonight. Thanks Jacqui for inspiring me!

  35. Jacque,You are so very right about saying your scared,when you say I can,t. You see the Doctors told me I would never walk again if they didn’t,t amputate my leg,as it had been broken in 27 places a 5inches of Tibia missing,after a Motorcycle accident in Big Bear Lake Ca. I tied elastic around my foot and worked it for two years while in the wheel chair.Today not only do I walk on that leg,but I have taken the Chris Powell weight loss challenge! And I work out with that leg every day! “I can”

  36. I am TERRIFIED of box jumps! Nice to know that I’m not the only one! I somehow have to conquer that fear! You’re awesome Jacqui. Gives me hope that I CAN let me repeat that: I CAN do box jumps. πŸ˜‰ Thanks for your article!

  37. “He made a stack of weights” what did that look like? I’m having a hard time picturing it. Thank you. I’ll work on catching myself say “I can’t.”

  38. I prefer using “Can I” over “I Can’t” when facing new challenges every day because “Can I” is best defined as:

    “Constant And Never-ending Improvement!”

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